There’s a very funny ad campaign going on right now for an auto maker where this couple imagines life with OR instead of AND. Like bed OR breakfast and sweet OR sour. The first time I saw it I nearly fell over because I’ve been offering this simple exercise to my coaching clients for over a year.
Simply replace OR and BUT with AND in your everyday language. It’s amazingly powerful. We humans seem to be pre-wired to look at life as black OR white choices. As if we can only be happy if we have this OR that. Why not have all of it? Let’s have love and career and friends and family and…..
Imagine the power of AND next time you’re in an argument with someone. Instead of “yes, but…” try “yes, and….”. It makes the other person feel heard AND you get to voice your opinion. I’m telling you, it’s the answer to most fights with your significant other. In business, list all your offerings and services with an AND. Often businesses will say to their clients in words or in print “you can have this OR that”. Why not offer it all to them? It’s quite possible they want this AND that.
AND is the ultimate capacity builder. Bring it on. I want a successful career AND a loving relationship AND close friendships AND to be engaged with my children. When you have your first child you can’t imagine loving another nearly as much. And then you have another and you do. And then another child. You realize your capacity to love is unlimited. The way we can expand and take in more and to offer more is unlimited.
AND is a life expander. Try replacing OR and BUT each and every time with AND…..
I wish you good health and love and happiness and success and…..